Wednesday, June 13, 2012
the difference between dating in your 20s and your 30s
my friend tita posted this garfunkel and oates video on my fb wall a couple of weeks ago and i think it perfectly sums up how different dating can be, depending on what box you are in. click on the picture above to watch the video and i promise you'll laugh.
in my twenties i felt optimistic and hopeful, but once i entered my thirties i noticed that guys on match.com (who were my age by the way) only wanted to date girls in their twenties. anytime i went out, i was constantly asked the dreaded question "are you dating?" and although i could have expounded upon how the last really cool guy that i just went out on what i thought was an excellent date never called back, i just simply answered "no." people didn't know how to respond. they just looked at me with pity and gave me the generic response "oh, don't worry. you'll find him when you're not looking." what people don't realize when they say that is you are aware, almost every single day, that you are single and you are trying your best to not be. but, you also have to live your life and be happy with where you are. the bottom line is that if you are dating in yours 20s it is just not the same as when you are still single in your 30s, 40s. you're aware of your age, your fertility, but yet you are trying not to freak about it.
tell me are you single, partnered off, divorced? what advice would you give to your 20-year-old self?